Tag Archives: Relationships

To My Toxic (Healing) Best Friend.

It took a long time for me to find the words I needed. And even then, I probably still don’t have all the right things to say. “Toxic” a word I didn’t want to use. Because that implies that there is something wrong with you, that you only bring harm. And that is not the…

To All the Love I Received Choosing Taboo.

It has been a year since the release of a momental film in the Hmong community of Minnesota, Taboo by the team of Cam Yang and Steven N. Yang. Not many people may know, and it is probably more credit than I deserve, but this was a film inspired by my taboo story, along with a variety…

For All the Couples Who Cannot Publicly Celebrate Today.

For all the couples who cannot publicly celebrate today…taboo couples, couples in hiding, couples who cannot speak of their existence: I hope you celebrate your love proudly and fully today. For the beautiful unification that you are, the ability to love beyond society’s norms; be it gender, race, social status, disapproval, or last name; the capacity…

Witness-Bearing: Acknowledging Your Own Pain to Heal.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” -Maya Angelou In Argentina, I learned of an important term that is crucial to many of the victims of the world’s most tragic crimes: Bearing Witness. That when people seek punishment for their offender, more than revenge, what they really are seeking is the…

To the Angels that were taken from Heaven: My Hmong Women.

To heal through my breakup, I did a variety of research; to dismantle my experience and understand a world outside mine. One of them, was to learn of heartbreaks other than mine, to see amazing people survive out of these dark times. Dark times that were even darker than mine; because someone will always have…

Sometimes We Hurt People We Love, Even the Ones that Hurt Us.

I am reflecting and processing about a mile a minute these days. Is it because I am desperate to heal this time around? I really don’t know but what I do know is that I can’t stop myself from writing out all my thoughts even if I wanted to. I really want to stop writing…