To My Toxic (Healing) Best Friend.

It took a long time for me to find the words I needed. And even then, I probably still don’t have all the right things to say. “Toxic” a word I didn’t want to use. Because that implies that there is something wrong with you, that you only bring harm. And that is not the […]

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To All the Love I Received Choosing Taboo.

It has been a year since the release of a momental film in the Hmong community of Minnesota, Taboo by the team of Cam Yang and Steven N. Yang. Not many people may know, and it is probably more credit than I deserve, but this was a film inspired by my taboo story, along with a variety […]

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For All the Couples Who Cannot Publicly Celebrate Today.

For all the couples who cannot publicly celebrate today…taboo couples, couples in hiding, couples who cannot speak of their existence: I hope you celebrate your love proudly and fully today. For the beautiful unification that you are, the ability to love beyond society’s norms; be it gender, race, social status, disapproval, or last name; the capacity […]

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Witness-Bearing: Acknowledging Your Own Pain to Heal.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” -Maya Angelou In Argentina, I learned of an important term that is crucial to many of the victims of the world’s most tragic crimes: Bearing Witness. That when people seek punishment for their offender, more than revenge, what they really are seeking is the […]

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To the Angels that were taken from Heaven: My Hmong Women.

To heal through my breakup, I did a variety of research; to dismantle my experience and understand a world outside mine. One of them, was to learn of heartbreaks other than mine, to see amazing people survive out of these dark times. Dark times that were even darker than mine; because someone will always have […]

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When I knew to leave.

I knew as I sat there in the dark of my room, silent, with a new found emotion of horror and heartbreak on my face, in disbelief of the atrocious and hurtful things on the other end of the phone line, thinking to myself for the first time in ages, how badly I wanted to […]

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Forget Me: Set Me Free.

You have a dark, twisted way of loving people. Of keeping them alive in the sickest corridors of your heart and mind, but killing them in person. Over and over, because “sorry” will make it a bit better as you do it. Even though your body has already forgotten me long ago, I know in […]

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Writing Your Hardships as a Story that was Meant to Be.

When you can’t find the answers to why and how something happened, step back and pretend that it was all apart of a higher power’s plan, and make sense of what that story may be like a Disney movie or a Kdrama we’d see. Because most of our pain, is from the thought that this […]

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My Body Always Knows I’m Leaving You.

So funny how my body will always be the first one to know that it is leaving you. As soon as my footsteps turn the other way, my chest begins to ache, food won’t go down, my tummy starts to slim, my eyesight blurs, I always get sick, and my heart just feels empty. But this […]

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