Letting Go, Trusting, & Being Happy.

Happy first month to me officially moving to South Korea.   “Nothing lasts forever.” Not the good, nor the bad, and I absolutely know that. And so the most beautiful thing, is being awake and alive enough to know that although I don’t know how long it’ll last, I know very well, with all my […]

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679 days of waiting to love you.

Hello Darling, Even being able to say that warms my heart. You are my darling. And I am so happy that you are here. I have waited 679 days to love you. 679 days precisely, of imagining everything you would be like to keep me afloat on tough days. Of imagining the way you’d have […]

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A Thank You to the One Who Broke Me.

I don’t like to say broke, because now that life makes sense, maybe you didn’t break me, perhaps you built me. To be who I am today. Never in my life could I imagine a love after you. Never. But now there are times where I stop breathing, not because I’m crying in pain like I used to, but […]

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To All the Love I Received Choosing Taboo.

It has been a year since the release of a momental film in the Hmong community of Minnesota, Taboo by the team of Cam Yang and Steven N. Yang. Not many people may know, and it is probably more credit than I deserve, but this was a film inspired by my taboo story, along with a variety […]

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To the Men Who Broke the Woman Who Just Loved Loving You.

How do I say this in a way that you will hear me? Hear me pleading for the Hmong women who didn’t know better and could only do the best they could to love you. How can I say it in a way that doesn’t coddle and cushion what you did and have no interest […]

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For All the Couples Who Cannot Publicly Celebrate Today.

For all the couples who cannot publicly celebrate today…taboo couples, couples in hiding, couples who cannot speak of their existence: I hope you celebrate your love proudly and fully today. For the beautiful unification that you are, the ability to love beyond society’s norms; be it gender, race, social status, disapproval, or last name; the capacity […]

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To the Angels that were taken from Heaven: My Hmong Women.

To heal through my breakup, I did a variety of research; to dismantle my experience and understand a world outside mine. One of them, was to learn of heartbreaks other than mine, to see amazing people survive out of these dark times. Dark times that were even darker than mine; because someone will always have […]

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Writing Your Hardships as a Story that was Meant to Be.

When you can’t find the answers to why and how something happened, step back and pretend that it was all apart of a higher power’s plan, and make sense of what that story may be like a Disney movie or a Kdrama we’d see. Because most of our pain, is from the thought that this […]

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My Body Always Knows I’m Leaving You.

So funny how my body will always be the first one to know that it is leaving you. As soon as my footsteps turn the other way, my chest begins to ache, food won’t go down, my tummy starts to slim, my eyesight blurs, I always get sick, and my heart just feels empty. But this […]

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