Hear for You.

Trying something a little new with my blog. Often times, readers find comfort in my articles. But I would like to personalize little notes to you. If you would like to, you can privately write to me as yourself or anonymously from the contact page of my blog about anything you may be going through […]

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The Last of Our Elders: 23 to 105.

On the funeral day of one of our greatest grandmothers (Youa Chang), we lost the very last of our Yang clan’s oldest elders: our great-grandfather, Nyiaj Ntxawg Yaj. 2017 has been funeral after funeral for our family. Maybe like all. Or maybe it is the time. But at the news of every death, there is a pause. Pause. All […]

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She’s Fire.

She believes she’s fire. At times, it’s the kind that shines. At times, it’s the kind that hurts. They say stars are more beautiful from afar. Because up close, they burn. Maybe that’s what she is. And I think she’s comfortable with it. Maybe the future will bring people equipped to survive it. For now, […]

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For All the Couples Who Cannot Publicly Celebrate Today.

For all the couples who cannot publicly celebrate today…taboo couples, couples in hiding, couples who cannot speak of their existence: I hope you celebrate your love proudly and fully today. For the beautiful unification that you are, the ability to love beyond society’s norms; be it gender, race, social status, disapproval, or last name; the capacity […]

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Childhood Scars from a Happy Home & First-Born Syndrome.

My family has a tradition of watching old family videos together, laughing and reminiscing on all the childhood days. But truth is: I can’t watch anything of myself after age 3. I can’t bear it. Little me gets a little louder, a little rougher, a little more outbursting with anger, a little lot more hard to understand, […]

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I Am Too Much.

I am just far too much sometimes. Too much of a lot things. Too much that I can completely understand that in these years of my becoming, why no one could last too long near me. Why things couldn’t hold onto me. I Am Too Much. I am too much passion. Which also means, I […]

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Witness-Bearing: Acknowledging Your Own Pain to Heal.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” -Maya Angelou In Argentina, I learned of an important term that is crucial to many of the victims of the world’s most tragic crimes: Bearing Witness. That when people seek punishment for their offender, more than revenge, what they really are seeking is the […]

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To the Angels that were taken from Heaven: My Hmong Women.

To heal through my breakup, I did a variety of research; to dismantle my experience and understand a world outside mine. One of them, was to learn of heartbreaks other than mine, to see amazing people survive out of these dark times. Dark times that were even darker than mine; because someone will always have […]

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When I knew to leave.

I knew as I sat there in the dark of my room, silent, with a new found emotion of horror and heartbreak on my face, in disbelief of the atrocious and hurtful things on the other end of the phone line, thinking to myself for the first time in ages, how badly I wanted to […]

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