To My Toxic (Healing) Best Friend.

It took a long time for me to find the words I needed. And even then, I probably still don’t have all the right things to say. “Toxic” a word I didn’t want to use. Because that implies that there is something wrong with you, that you only bring harm. And that is not the […]

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679 days of waiting to love you.

Hello Darling, Even being able to say that warms my heart. You are my darling. And I am so happy that you are here. I have waited 679 days to love you. 679 days precisely, of imagining everything you would be like to keep me afloat on tough days. Of imagining the way you’d have […]

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A Thank You to the One Who Broke Me.

I don’t like to say broke, because now that life makes sense, maybe you didn’t break me, perhaps you built me. To be who I am today. Never in my life could I imagine a love after you. Never. But now there are times where I stop breathing, not because I’m crying in pain like I used to, but […]

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To All the Love I Received Choosing Taboo.

It has been a year since the release of a momental film in the Hmong community of Minnesota, Taboo by the team of Cam Yang and Steven N. Yang. Not many people may know, and it is probably more credit than I deserve, but this was a film inspired by my taboo story, along with a variety […]

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To My Anonymous Reader: Advice on Confidence & Social Anxiety

Here is my response to a sweet reader out there who had contacted me anonymously. As I cannot email you back, I wanted to make sure you got this note from me! Sending you love! Hi Nakita, I enjoy reading your blog posts and I always look forward to them. So keep up the great […]

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A Happy 23rd.

I like to alternate from writing for others and myself. Healthy, deep care for others, always starts with Self-Care. 🙂 Well, I’m officially 23. 23 is such an odd stage, I think. It’s 2 years after 21, and 2 years before the big ole quarter-of-a-century, 25. Eeek. Lol. ‘Eeek’ but somehow I’m so excited to be […]

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The Most Expensive Thing You Can Afford Post Grad & How It Can Make You Richer.

So, I quit my job today. Normally, people would wait this out and blog about it after successfully launching a million dollar gig overnight of some sort. I don’t have any of that. And although that would be an awesome, glorified story of “Why Quitting My Job Was The Best Thing That Happened To Me,” life […]

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To the Men Who Broke the Woman Who Just Loved Loving You.

How do I say this in a way that you will hear me? Hear me pleading for the Hmong women who didn’t know better and could only do the best they could to love you. How can I say it in a way that doesn’t coddle and cushion what you did and have no interest […]

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What I Learned When I Put My Grandma in Front of the Camera

It must be the timing of life, but documenting our family stories and elders seem to be in more need than ever. Or maybe we, in this generation, are just older now so it’s more relevant. I’ve lost all the elders in my life that I didn’t realize I’d have to say goodbye to one day, and […]

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