A Happy 23rd.

I like to alternate from writing for others and myself. Healthy, deep care for others, always starts with Self-Care. 🙂 Well, I’m officially 23. 23 is such an odd stage, I think. It’s 2 years after 21, and 2 years before the big ole quarter-of-a-century, 25. Eeek. Lol. ‘Eeek’ but somehow I’m so excited to be […]

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The Most Expensive Thing You Can Afford Post Grad & How It Can Make You Richer.

So, I quit my job today. Normally, people would wait this out and blog about it after successfully launching a million dollar gig overnight of some sort. I don’t have any of that. And although that would be an awesome, glorified story of “Why Quitting My Job Was The Best Thing That Happened To Me,” life […]

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To the Men Who Broke the Woman Who Just Loved Loving You.

How do I say this in a way that you will hear me? Hear me pleading for the Hmong women who didn’t know better and could only do the best they could to love you. How can I say it in a way that doesn’t coddle and cushion what you did and have no interest […]

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What I Learned When I Put My Grandma in Front of the Camera

It must be the timing of life, but documenting our family stories and elders seem to be in more need than ever. Or maybe we, in this generation, are just older now so it’s more relevant. I’ve lost all the elders in my life that I didn’t realize I’d have to say goodbye to one day, and […]

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Hear for You.

Trying something a little new with my blog. Often times, readers find comfort in my articles. But I would like to personalize little notes to you. If you would like to, you can privately write to me as yourself or anonymously from the contact page of my blog about anything you may be going through […]

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The Last of Our Elders: 23 to 105.

On the funeral day of one of our greatest grandmothers (Youa Chang), we lost the very last of our Yang clan’s oldest elders: our great-grandfather, Nyiaj Ntxawg Yaj. 2017 has been funeral after funeral for our family. Maybe like all. Or maybe it is the time. But at the news of every death, there is a pause. Pause. All […]

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She’s Fire.

She believes she’s fire. At times, it’s the kind that shines. At times, it’s the kind that hurts. They say stars are more beautiful from afar. Because up close, they burn. Maybe that’s what she is. And I think she’s comfortable with it. Maybe the future will bring people equipped to survive it. For now, […]

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For All the Couples Who Cannot Publicly Celebrate Today.

For all the couples who cannot publicly celebrate today…taboo couples, couples in hiding, couples who cannot speak of their existence: I hope you celebrate your love proudly and fully today. For the beautiful unification that you are, the ability to love beyond society’s norms; be it gender, race, social status, disapproval, or last name; the capacity […]

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Childhood Scars from a Happy Home & First-Born Syndrome.

My family has a tradition of watching old family videos together, laughing and reminiscing on all the childhood days. But truth is: I can’t watch anything of myself after age 3. I can’t bear it. Little me gets a little louder, a little rougher, a little more outbursting with anger, a little lot more hard to understand, […]

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