A Thank You to the One Who Broke Me.

I don’t like to say broke, because now that life makes sense, maybe you didn’t break me, perhaps you built me. To be who I am today. Never in my life could I imagine a love after you. Never. But now there are times where I stop breathing, not because I’m crying in pain like I used to, but […]

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To All the Love I Received Choosing Taboo.

It has been a year since the release of a momental film in the Hmong community of Minnesota, Taboo by the team of Cam Yang and Steven N. Yang. Not many people may know, and it is probably more credit than I deserve, but this was a film inspired by my taboo story, along with a variety […]

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To My Anonymous Reader: Advice on Confidence & Social Anxiety

Here is my response to a sweet reader out there who had contacted me anonymously. As I cannot email you back, I wanted to make sure you got this note from me! Sending you love! Hi Nakita, I enjoy reading your blog posts and I always look forward to them. So keep up the great […]

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A Happy 23rd.

I like to alternate from writing for others and myself. Healthy, deep care for others, always starts with Self-Care. 🙂 Well, I’m officially 23. 23 is such an odd stage, I think. It’s 2 years after 21, and 2 years before the big ole quarter-of-a-century, 25. Eeek. Lol. ‘Eeek’ but somehow I’m so excited to be […]

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The Most Expensive Thing You Can Afford Post Grad & How It Can Make You Richer.

So, I quit my job today. Normally, people would wait this out and blog about it after successfully launching a million dollar gig overnight of some sort. I don’t have any of that. And although that would be an awesome, glorified story of “Why Quitting My Job Was The Best Thing That Happened To Me,” life […]

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To the Men Who Broke the Woman Who Just Loved Loving You.

How do I say this in a way that you will hear me? Hear me pleading for the Hmong women who didn’t know better and could only do the best they could to love you. How can I say it in a way that doesn’t coddle and cushion what you did and have no interest […]

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Hear for You.

Trying something a little new with my blog. Often times, readers find comfort in my articles. But I would like to personalize little notes to you. If you would like to, you can privately write to me as yourself or anonymously from the contact page of my blog about anything you may be going through […]

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For All the Couples Who Cannot Publicly Celebrate Today.

For all the couples who cannot publicly celebrate today…taboo couples, couples in hiding, couples who cannot speak of their existence: I hope you celebrate your love proudly and fully today. For the beautiful unification that you are, the ability to love beyond society’s norms; be it gender, race, social status, disapproval, or last name; the capacity […]

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Childhood Scars from a Happy Home & First-Born Syndrome.

My family has a tradition of watching old family videos together, laughing and reminiscing on all the childhood days. But truth is: I can’t watch anything of myself after age 3. I can’t bear it. Little me gets a little louder, a little rougher, a little more outbursting with anger, a little lot more hard to understand, […]

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